Holding Space

^z 8th January 2024 at 8:30pm

A beautiful image: holding space for a person. Heather Plett defines it in "What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone":

It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they're on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control. ...

In "Understanding How to Hold Space", Jim Tolles suggests four key components:

  • Letting go of judgment
  • Opening your heart
  • Allowing another to have whatever experience they're having
  • Giving your complete undivided attention to the situation/other person

Lynn Hauka in "The Sweetness of Holding Space for Another" describes it as:

When you hold space for someone, you bring your entire presence to them.

You walk along with them without judgment, sharing their journey to an unknown destination. Yet you're completely willing to end up wherever they need to go. You give your heart, let go of control, and offer unconditional support.

And perhaps best of all, in "The Importance of Holding Space", Helen Avery suggests that holding space is just:

being 'there'
and
doing 'nothing'

... shades of Zen's vast emptiness!

(cf. Ma (negative space) in Wikipedia, and Kenosis (2008-09-21), Between (2009-12-10), No Method (2010-01-21), Shul (2011-06-11), Zen Soup (2012-02-09), Empty Cup (2012-05-08), Space Between (2013-10-15), Seeking Negative Space (2016-04-21), ... ) - ^z - 2016-07-22